THE CALLING OF A CHRISTIAN
Genesis 2:18 shows why God had to make man and woman into marriage. “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him. That does not mean a woman or wife in inferior. In fact
Gen 1:27 we read: “in the image of God he created him; male and female.
Gal 3:28 shows that in Christ “there is neither male nor female”.
Gens 2:23 Adam before the fall said “this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh” or my type 9 unlike the other creatures)
So, every woman and man can say “I am fearfully and wonderfully made”.
However, it is important to understand the status and roles of the couple in marriage as
Equal (Gen. 1:27; Gal3:28)
Different (physically, emotionally, functionally) (Duet 22:6)
But complementary- i.e., to complete each other (Gen. 2:18)
That is why before women are asked to submit their husbands in Eph 5:22,23 it says in Ephesians 5:21 to both men and women “to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
Because the wife and husband are equal, different, and complementary they have some equal roles, some different roles and the different roles “complete” each other. That much is clear in proverbs 31:10-31. The success of the husband is indirectly attributed to the wife’s industry, organization, and godliness.
We have joint role with husbands to honour God, to meet each other’s sexual needs (1 Cor 7:3); to raise our children, to respect each other, to create a Christian home and to serve. But let’s focus on women’s role.
THE UNIQUE ROLE OF A WIFE
KEY VERSE: Proverbs 31:12” she does him good and not harm, all the days of her life” in relation to her husband (we will not focus on parenting today)
In that regard as women and wives we must know that our husbands may be Apostles, Pastors, elders, presidents but they are incomplete, weak, have blind spots and need our prayers, advice, humble corrections as well as SERVICE THEM SEXUALLY, “belly wise and others of course they have more to do for us too to make us complete, but my husband is talking to them. My husband and I have summarised what are our roles in the following 6 points.
To submit to the husband’s leadership as the church submits to Christ (Eph 5:22, Col 3:18)
To develop weapons of inner beauty” (1Pet 3:1-6) i.e., humility, supportive spirit, goal character in addition to attractive presentation of yourself but modestly.
To be a friend of your husband. In Titus 2:4 the love older women are to teach the younger women to have to be their friends (Philo’s love). The other 2 loves Agape and sexual are also important but they are mutual.
To conduct herself in such a way that her husband has confidence in her that is trust her. (Prov. 31:11)
To be a helpmate and do him good at all times (Prov. 31:12; Gen 2:18)
To manage the home to ensure family members needs for food, clothing, shelter, secure future and family husbands and children (proverbs 31:13-27)
PRACTICAL TIPS FOR “KRISTO MU OYEREPA
Maintain your own spirituality and closer walk to God for if you don’t, you can rather become a channel of Satan as Eve was and even like Mrs Job advise your husband to curse God in time of difficulty. Be a positive channel of God to help and guide your husband as Mrs Manoah (Sampson mother) or even Pilate’s wife in warning him to “have nothing to do with that righteous man (Jesus)”. The difference is your walk with God.
Work on your character (1 Peter 3:1-16) and your physical beauty and be attractive to your husband to encourage him to delight in the wife of his youth (Proverbs 5:18)
Do all you can to more than meet the sexual needs and expectations of your husband (1Cor 7:3-5, song of Solomon – the Shunamite woman
Manage your home to be resting place for him well with balanced food but not send him to an easily grave”.
Manage his personal and social life especially with neighbours and his extended families with firmness, tact, love, and generosity.
Show interest in his job, visit him and as much as possible accompany him. Be prepared to stand in for him. Ask God to give you the grace and anointing.
Most men are proud of their children though many unfortunately don’t give the attention they deserve. (help him)
Money matters-most men need help to manage their finances but feel too proud to release their control over the wallet. Work to gain his confidence and believe that your help make him richer though in my case my husband is the opposite.
Above all pray for him daily and always
Be bold, wise, and humble to correct him and tell him where he can be better.
Surprise him with little gifts” afternoon jumps, care for people he loves such his mother.
Make your husband and your family your number one ministry.